Recognising Domestic Violence: Understanding the Impact and Seeking Help

Domestic violence is often thought of as physical abuse, but it can take many forms, including emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual abuse. Recognising the signs is the first step toward protecting yourself and your children and seeking support.

What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviours used by one person to gain power and control over another within an intimate or family relationship. Common forms include:

• Physical abuse: Hitting, slapping, pushing, or other forms of violence

• Emotional abuse: Threats, intimidation, humiliation, or constant criticism

• Psychological abuse: Gaslighting, manipulation, or controlling behaviours

• Financial abuse: Controlling access to money or restricting financial independence

• Sexual abuse: Coercion or assault within the relationship

How Domestic Violence Impacts Adults

Domestic violence can have profound effects on mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, including:

• Anxiety, depression, and chronic stress

• Low self-esteem and self-doubt

• Difficulty trusting others or forming relationships

• Physical health problems, such as chronic pain, headaches, or fatigue

Impact on Children

Children exposed to domestic violence can experience:

• Emotional and behavioural difficulties, such as anxiety, aggression, or withdrawal

• Learning difficulties or poor school performance

• Sleep disturbances or physical health problems

• Long-term impacts on their sense of safety, trust, and relationships

Even if children are not directly abused, witnessing abuse can be traumatising and affect their development.

Recognising the Signs

Domestic violence can be subtle and gradual. Some warning signs include:

• Feeling constantly anxious or “walking on eggshells”

• Isolation from friends, family, or support networks

• A partner controlling your daily activities, finances, or decisions

• Repeated cycles of apologies, gifts, or promises following abusive incidents

When to Seek Help

It’s important to reach out if you feel unsafe or notice patterns of control, fear, or abuse. Help is available, and you don’t need to wait until a situation escalates. Consider contacting:

• Local domestic violence services or hotlines

• Healthcare professionals, including GPs or psychologists

• Police or emergency services if immediate danger exists

Support is available for both adults and children, and seeking help is a courageous step toward safety, healing, and empowerment.

A Final Word

Domestic violence is never the victim’s fault. Recognising it, understanding its impact, and accessing support can help you and your children live safer, healthier lives.

If you’d like to discuss your experiences, seek guidance, or explore safe strategies to address domestic violence, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

Warmly,

Amy

Clinical Psychologist